I Need Help Now!
You’ve come to the right place. First, take a deep breath.
Finding a good housemate is not something to be done quickly. That’s when mistakes are made.
Everyone is different. How people choose to live in their home can be wildly different.
Like everything in life, planning will save you time in the long run. Take some time to sort out your preferences and to be selective in finding the person or situation that works for you. To get the worksheets that will help you do this planning, fill out the information on the right.
You need a process. Don’t just look at roommate ads. Here is what your process should be.
(There’s a worksheet for steps 1-4, 7-8)
1: Figure out how much you can spend/need to charge.
2: Think through these two questions. What must you have where you live? What can’t you live with?
3: Look at ads/write an ad.
4: Interview potential housemates on the telephone. Only go to see homes that meet your basic criteria. (See step 2.) Only invite people to the house who meet your basic criteria. (See step 2.)
5: Take the interviewing questionnaire. Ask your potential housemate to take it too.
(This step doesn’t have a worksheet. Take the online questionnaire here. Find it the menu above.)
6: Meet your potential housemate.
If you are the one looking for a place to live you should check out the space first. If you hate it, no point in spending time talking. You don’t want to live there.
7: Sit down and discuss how you would live together.
Use the interviewing questionnaire to talk through the critical areas of housemate cooperation.
8: IF you both feel good about this discussion, check references.
9: If references check out, make a plan about moving in.
10: (There has to be a step 10) Exchange key for money at the same time.
What’s important is that at any step you can stop the process. If something doesn’t feel right this is the time to say “No.”
Download the worksheets! They will help.
You may also hire me to work with you through this process.