“Safe!” yells the umpire as the runner slides home. Safety. It’s a primal, basic need. We need shelter where we can be free from harm. We need security and stability. These needs are so deeply a part of us that Abraham Maslow, the psychologist, when he constructed his hierarchy of needs, put safety after food […]
Read More...Considering Moving
Moving, they say, is one of life’s stressors. As we get older it doesn’t quite have the excitement that it did in our twenties and thirties. Then there’s this innocent feeling of excitement about uprooting yourself and starting over in a new living situation, now there’s more awareness of what it takes. According to PsychCentral, […]
Read More...That Man In His Underwear
Back in the day, when I was in my twenties, I had a flatmate whose beau would walk around the apartment in his underwear. I let it slide a few times, but when it came to using my crystal champagne flutes to drink milk I finally had to say something about his cavalier attitude of […]
Read More...Tools for Your Home-Mate Selection Process
She knew she hated dirty dishes in the kitchen sink. It didn’t seem so important when she interviewed to live with others in a large house. She fell in love with the room, the house and the location. She noticed the dirty dishes but internally she shrugged and thought, “I can live with it.” So […]
Read More...A Picture is Worth a Thousand Words
Yes, it’s a cliche, but when you are looking for a new place to live or share a picture is worth a thousands could not be truer. Case in point, a couple of weeks ago, a member of our sister Facebook page, Hello, Home-Mate, told the group of her home and she was advised to […]
Read More...Get Out of My Own Way
Ramey had to learn to get out of her own way. A long-time mediator who likes her solitude, she really wasn’t too sure about having someone around on her property. While not “exactly reclusive,” she wasn’t interested in forced socializing over a cup of coffee every day. She wanted a balance of self-reliance and some […]
Read More...How Do I Find a Good Home-Mate?
It’s the $64,000-dollar question. You’re convinced that having a home-mate is a good idea and you’d like to try it. But how do you find a good home-mate? How do you find that one (or two) person (persons) with whom you can live? Lots of parts have to come together. Not only does that person […]
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