Do you want to share housing but find the transition scary?
Having a home-mate is a big transition. If you are used to living alone it’s an even bigger change. Change requires energy and willingness to accept uncertainty and we don’t like to do it. We much prefer our lives to be predictable. As we get older this tendency gets stronger and we get more entrenched in our ways. It’s pretty common to deny that there’s a need to change until the current situation is so uncomfortable that we have to do something about it. Don’t wait.
There are significant benefits to having a home-mate.
Do you know this already? Have you arrived here looking for help? Or are you unconvinced? You may be really unsure or even resistant to the idea. You may have landed on this page because you are exploring.
A home-mate is a person you like and respect whose way of living is enough compatible with yours that you are comfortable sharing a home.
Are these your questions about sharing housing?
- How do I start?
- How to be safe?
- What if it doesn’t work out?
- Can I really find someone who can live with me?
All of these questions are real. There are resources on this website to help you answer them and move forward.
- The blog articles section is full of how-to’s and interviews of people who are sharing housing, how they do it and the benefits that they experience.
The book describes the process and answers many of these questions.
Worksheets first published in the book are available for download.
The Interviewing Guide “What You Need To Talk About—When Interviewing a Potential Home-Mate” contains a multiple choice questions to be answered and discussed. The Guide describes why each of the questions is essential in determining if you would be comfortable living with each other. Learn more here.
Learning with others. We offer a four session on-line course three to four times a year. Discovering Shared Housing is designed to give you an understanding of the process of selection. You are able to ask questions and talk with other participants. Learn more here.
Sharing housing is a good way to live.
People need people. We all need human connection. It is as natural to us as breathing—really.
Having a home-mate can help you live a life that is more comfortable, connected, and cheaper. It’s healthier. It’s also more sustainable. The benefits of sharing housing are significant.
Maybe you have come here hoping to find a matching service. That’s not what we do. If you don’t have a matching service in your area, you will have to do the work of the search for yourself.
You might want to read the Preface and Introduction to the book, Sharing Housing, A Guidebook for Finding and Keeping Good Housemates. Get your copy of the Preface and Introduction.
Have you come to the right place? Are you like any of these people?